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The Chinese Wedding. Traditions and Tips on Planning your Wedding

Planning to hold a Chinese wedding in appreciation of your culture? Infusing your modern wedding with Chinese traditions is a great way to honor your culture and heritage. From the betrothal and engagement gifts to the essential Tea Ceremony and the bride wearing the Qipao, we share Chinese traditions and tips to help you plan your wedding:

1. The Betrothal & Presentation of Engagement Gifts
Among the first of the traditions is the betrothal, known as the Guo Da Li, that happens before other celebrations start. Usually, the groom presents gifts to the bride’s parents before asking for the bride’s hand in marriage.
If the to-be bride’s parents accept the gifts, this symbolizes a blessing upon their union and they also prepare gifts the groom takes back to his parents.

2. Choosing the Lucky Wedding Date
According to customs, a Chinese couple consults a fortune teller or feng shui expert to choose an auspicious wedding date. From the Chinese calendar, the best day is usually determined by their birth dates and Chinese zodiac signs, and an even day and month of the year is considered auspicious.
In modern days, a lucky person (one with a happy marriage and family) can also help choose the date according to the Chinese calendar.

3. Preparing the Marriage Bed
Known as An Chuang, this tradition is carried out on a lucky day, ideally, two to three days before the wedding as part of the traditions. Usually, a woman of good fortune is in charge of decorating the bed using red bed sheets, pillows, and a mix of dried longans, lotus seeds, and other fruits and nuts.
This symbolizes blessings and well wishes in their marriage life.
Also, no one is allowed to touch or sit on the bed until the couple returns together at the end of the wedding day.

4. Choosing the Wedding Dress
Chinese brides are expected to wear a red dress, with embroidery, which is commonly referred to as a qipao. Red symbolizes happiness, prosperity, and good luck, unlike white which is associated with funerals in the Chinese culture.

5. Inviting Guests
Chinese wedding invitations are traditionally designed in red and enclosed in a red envelope. Any lettering is made in gold to symbolize wealth and features a character of Double Happiness.
The invite always includes details of the groom and the bride, their parents and the date of the wedding banquet, and the reception dinner.

6. The Décor
Red is an integral part of any Chinese celebration, including the décor. Deck the walls in red, hang up red lanterns and red Double Happiness signs. Other symbols like the Phoenix and Dragon symbol are also used to symbolize unity and balance.
Fruits like oranges and pomegranates are also incorporated in the décor, for instance, on the dessert table, and into floral banquets on the table for the good luck of fertility.

7. Chinese Door Games
Known as the Chuangmen, this tradition happens to put the groom to the test as a show-off that the bride is well-prized.
Traditionally, door games used to happen following the groom’s procession to the bride’s home, and until the groom completed the tests, the bridesmaids would not surrender the bride. Here are some of the door games to incorporate in your Chinese wedding.

8. The Wedding Banquet
Chinese wedding banquets are rich in food, usually, a lavish 8-course menu is offered with symbolic foods prepared like whole fish for abundance, lotus seed desserts for fertility and a suckling pig to symbolize the bride’s purity.
The guests first see the couple at the reception and not during the exchange of vows. Once the dinner begins, the bride changes into a traditional red Chinese wedding dress. A display of their childhood photos is shared and towards the end of the reception, the ‘yam seng’ toast is made to congratulate the groom for winning the bride.

9. The Tea Ceremony
Jing Cha, the Tea Ceremony, is another important Chinese wedding tradition where the newlyweds (groom and bride) formally introduce themselves to their families by respectfully offering a cup of tea.
While the tea ceremony was organized separately to both families in the past, these days, a common tea banquet is held, and afterward, the parents give blessings to the couple.
While Chinese weddings are culture-rich, there are post-wedding traditions to follow including the bride preparing breakfast for both families as she is acknowledged by her family as a bride and formally introduced to the groom’s family.
Also, three days after the wedding, the groom and bride visit her family as guests and the groom usually brings the gift of a roasted pig.

Looking for a wedding planner? At GD Events, we can help create a bespoke Chinese wedding for you. Happy marriage!

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